Reward-oriented Parenting and Positive Reinforcement

There are many ways to increase the likelihood of children exhibiting desirable behaviors by using positive reinforcements and rewards.^[1] To learn how to effectively reinforce behaviors, please re-visit the Skinner chapter.

Parents or teachers may wish to reinforce children for:

• Listening attentively;
• Using appropriate manners (e.g., saying “please,” “you are welcome,” and “thank you”);
• Moving and talking in a manner appropriate for the environment (e.g., using “library voices;” “walking feet”);
• Playing nicely;
• Completing tasks without reminders; and
• Calling or texting if they will be late.

Examples of rewards and positive reinforcements include:^[2]

• Complimenting a child’s behavior (e.g., “I really like the way you put all of your clothes away in your room”);
• Praising a child’s actions (e.g., “I am proud of how hard you studied for your spelling quiz.”);
• Giving additional privileges;
• Clapping or cheering;
• Thanking them for behaving a certain way (e.g., “Thank you very much for asking such a detailed question;” “I really appreciate you using your inside voice while we were at the museum.”);
• Making sure they overhear you telling someone else about their positive behavior;
• Smiling at them; and
• Giving tangible rewards (e.g., stickers, incentives).

In order for these methods to be effective, rewards or incentives must:

• be important or valuable to the child,
• occur immediately after the desired behavior, and
• consistently be implemented.

To learn how to create a reward program, visit the CDC’s website for information.

Examples

Here is a common example of (unintentionally and positively) rewarding inappropriate behavior: An aunt provides candy to her nephew every time he throws a tantrum in the store because he wants candy at the checkout lane.

The aunt reinforces the poor behavior (e.g., a tantrum) by providing reinforcers (e.g., candy and attention) every time he throws a tantrum at the grocery store.

Here is an example of positively rewarding the same child to stop the tantrums: Now that this child throws a tantrum with his parents when they go to the grocery store, his parents provide their son with candy only when he does not throw a tantrum in the store.

His parents reinforce the appropriate behavior (e.g., not throwing a tantrum) by providing reinforcers (e.g., candy and attention) every time they go to the grocery store and he refrains from throwing a tantrum.